My wife and I are fortunate enough to be able to share some of the clothes (I can fit into some of the stretchier stuff) so there isn’t a lot of complaining from the wife about my female clothing hogging closet space. I do however have an extensive T-shirt collection (guy clothes) that she DOES complain about (even though when you factor in her clothes plus the clothes we share she gets a solid 75% of the available real estate!)
As for moving – we moved across the country about a year and a half ago. We had professional movers pack and move our stuff, a friend and I drove the cars, and my wife flew ahead of us to get our temp housing ready and start her job. My wife and I packed up all of my CD-specific stuff (wig, forms, shoes) that were obviously NOT hers and took them with her in her luggage on the plane so we didn’t run the risk of movers or friends finding them.